Friday, January 18, 2008

Wicked Mentality

Ms. Somegirl: “Men are so easy…”

Finndistan :“Depends on the context… We can be easy, very easy, or we can be impossible”

Ms. Somegirl: “No. Men are easy.”

Finndistan: “Ask your friend over here”.. I turn to the single mom “What you think? Are men easy if you want more than sex?”

Ms. Singlemom: “No. Men are so difficult.. I cannot find a man.”

Finndistan: “How old were you? 31?”

Ms. Singlemom: “32”

Finndistan: “Two kids?”

Ms. Singlemom: “Yes, 5, 13”

Finndistan: “Two fathers?” sidenote: at this point I am playing the guessing game

Ms. Singlemom: “Yes”

Finndistan: “Father of the first is an asshole, and he does not help your raise the kid?”

Ms. Singlemom: “Yes.. He was an asshole.”

Finndistan: “Father of the second is also an asshole?”

Ms. Singlemom: “No, he is my best friend.”

Finndistan: “And you are looking for a long term man.”

Ms. Singlemom: “Ooooohhhh… Sooo difficult. I so much want a man to take care of me…. But men are afraid”

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You know, I am not going into the point of a man’s view too much, or at least try not to…

After saying that I am sad for what I heard, she seemed like a likable person…. Let me rant:

Ladies… Please… Please…
What is this entitlement syndrome we see here?
Little princess got knocked up by two different guys… Did not manage/want a relationship with any of them, - no, men are not the only responsible one for a broken relationship - and now is looking for a man to take care of her and two kids, one of who she calls “a crazy girl like me”, who will never accept this guy as a dad with authority over her..

This relationship is mental and financial suicide for any man in her “possible husband” target group, who is heroic enough, or in other words, stupid enough to indulge into this kind of insanity… For a woman who will almost always side with her kids against the father, if the situation arises.

A man who is ready to invest his limited money, energy, and more importantly his not renewable limited source of time, into raising the sperm of other men. This goes against any instinct the man has. Under forty years of age, a man that accepts this is taking a big risk, and is also doing the woman a huge favor. Now, there is also a high possibility that this woman will not appreciate that act….

Added to that, she thinks she is entitled to have a man take up the mess and clean it???

Yes, I do assume there is a mess somewhere…

I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up..

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A similar story, different girl:

“Yea, am staying at my friend’s place.. The boys are at their grandma…”

“Boys?”

“I got two sons…”

“Your husband?”

“No.. I have no man..”

“The boys fathers?”

“They are not with me…” notice : they

“Must be difficult…”

“Not too bad… Now I am looking for the man of my life..”

“So now, you’re looking for the man of your life?”

“Yep. The man of my life… nobody around though”


My comment will be same as above. As an addition,

“nobody around” = highly possible she is overpricing herself out of the market.

I may sound harsh, I will not apologize. If this disturbs you, suck it up...